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#2. Maintain yourself - Men are visual, which means if you let yourself go, he will lose interest. He doesn’t want to commit to a woman who is only going to get worse. Maintain yourself physically and health wise, to prove you are willing to be the best you can be for him.
#3. Trust him - Don’t be scared that he’s going to run off with some other woman, or that he’s lying to you about everything.
#4. Regularly give him space - Every guy wants time alone. We all need our personal space, and it’s better if you can give that to him without him having to ask for it or beg you. Do it naturally, and he will appreciate you and think you are marriage material.
#5. Be there for him, even if he says nothing about the problem - Show you are supportive of him, by BEING there; WITHOUT questioning him on the problem.
#6. Be financially dependent - It can help a man to know that you aren’t going to take every last penny he has.Some men fear marriage, because they are afraid of losing all of their money (in a divorce, or even just because of a wife’s spending).
#7. Compliment him
#8. Learn his insecurities - It’s not something people walk around talking about, but sometimes a man hints that he is insecure about something, so that you can avoid the topic or avoid hurting him in the future.
#9. Don’t act out toward your man - If he says something that hurts your feelings, or if he does something you disagree with…most women’s first reactions would be to become dramatic and emotional and nag the guy. Don’t do this…because it tells him that you are a nightmare to marry, because instead of remaining calm and allowing him some room to improve, you are just lashing out at him.
#10. Accept responsibility in a fight - Every relationship has its moments where they are disagreements and fights.The difference between a healthy relationship that encourages a man to marry you, and an unhealthy marriage that pushes a man away is this: blame or responsibility.
#11. Learn to take a joke…even if its personal
#12. Learn to take criticism - Men criticize to see improvement, and they do it in order to try to help you see things in a different light.They also criticize to try and show you a solution or a better way to do something, if they see you are struggling. This is why you should learn how to take criticism, because if you freak out every time he criticizes you, you tell him that you won’t be able to improve in the future.
#13. Be serious where it’s necessary - There’s nothing more discouraging, or annoying to a man, than a woman who does not take SERIOUS issues seriously.A serious issue is something that he considers to be important, and if you can’t take it seriously, he thinks that you don’t take HIM or yourself seriously.
#14. Keep your promises
#15. Don’t use excuses
#16. Be COMFORTABLE around him - He wants to grab your love handles, and suddenly you are pulling away, asking him if he thinks you’re fat.You also become insecure when he wants to make love to you. Or you just struggle to open up to him. All of these things tell him that you are not comfortable around him, make him feel insecure, and make him QUESTION the point of marrying you.
#17. Show love with ACTION - Sure, you said you love him; but words only get you so far. He wants to see you SHOWING it with your actions. #18. Don’t be afraid to draw the lines
#19. Show appreciation
#20. Encourage him to succeed daily
#21. Take his problem solving advice
#22. Be calm when he is stressed - When a man is stressed it can be a HUGE problem, because he acts out of character, is unpredictable, may lash out at you, and may withdraw.BUT, instead of blaming him and arguing, just be calm and let the storm pass. He needs to know that you UNDERSTAND him in that area, and doesn’t need a woman who makes it all about “herself” when he has something stressful going on.
#23. Use the things he gives you
#24. Do FOR him before you ask OF him
#25. Disagree without disappointment - There will be differences, BUT the main issue is how you HANDLE the differences between each other.If you handle disagreements by arguing and becoming disappointed when you don’t take his side, you are showing him that you are emotionally immature. But, if you disagree without feeling disappointed, you show him that you can respect his opinion, even if you don’t think its right for you.
#26. Ask when you don’t know - If you’re afraid to ask him something, how will he ever feel like he can truly communicate to you? Not only this, but if you never ask him the things you are curious about, you’ll often end up looking for answers on your own, which leads to assumptions.
#27. Don’t pressure him
#28. Respect him - If he has boundaries, don’t cross them.If he values privacy in certain areas, observe it. If there is something you dislike about him, don’t go complaining to your family and girlfriends about it, behind his back. There are many examples, but the main point is that you RESPECT him, so that he can feel valued, appreciated, and upheld.
#29. MAINTAIN his interest - Marriage is a LONG-term relationship, which means that you will consciously have to make efforts to keep his interest. You won’t be able to keep his interest if he knows EVERYTHING about you, and nothing changes. This is why it’s important to learn new things, new skills, and to create a life outside the relationship so that you have things to keep and spark his interest.
#30. Learn from your mistakes
#31. Understand your emotions
#32. Evaluate yourself regularly - A guy doesn’t always want to have to point out everything that you’re doing wrong, or your flaws, or mistakes…because you are completely oblivious to them and have to ask him what’s wrong. Evaluate yourself regularly to ensure you are improving and are moving forward internally and externally.
#33. Show him that you can let things go
#34. Prove you are committed – Stay with him mentally, physically, and intimately no matter what.
#35. Listen to him as much as possible
He wants to be able to talk to you about anything that’s on his mind.
#36. Be able to be alone and quiet with him
#37. Let him know your expectations
#38. Challenge him
He wants someone who can challenge him in all kinds of ways, such as challenging him to change or be better, challenging him to keep your interest etc… This keeps him glued to you, instead of having him interested in other women.
#39. Be sexually pleasing - Sex can become pretty boring, especially if you always do the same things over and over…which is a HUGE problem, because intimacy is important in a long-term relationship. Ask him what his fantasies are, learn new tricks in bed, and ultimately surprise and encourage him there, so that he feels like you’re someone who he could stay with and marry…because you don’t disappoint him in the bedroom.
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#40. Divide your time elsewhere
#41. Be honest
Remember that honesty is accepted, and even if it hurts its temporary…but lies are REJECTED, and is permanent pain, because they take away his trust in you.
#42. Trust him with your personal things
#43. Accept him
#44. Surprise him
The element of surprise in a relationship keeps him interested and gives him a reason to stick around for the long run, because it shows that you still have lots left to offer that he doesn’t even know about.
#45. Be spontaneous
#46. Make him laugh
As the saying goes “laughter is the best medicine” and it most definitely is an attractive trait for a “wife”.
#47. Be romantic
#48. Place importance above your-self where necessary - Relationships are about TWO people, not one…which is why it can’t always be about you.
#49. Know your role
#50. Let him know that he fulfills you NOW - Men worry about whether or not they will be able to support you, keep you happy, sustain interest etc… which is why they avoid marriage and avoid the commitment topic. If you want him to marry you, let him know that everything he is doing RIGHT NOW, is exactly what is necessary to sustain you in the future, so that he sees he is truly fulfilling and pleasing you…and stops worrying about being unable to, because he’d see he already is ABLE.
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